8 STAGES of any relationship of any life

1. trust - we need it to explore...if we have it not, we mistrust & thus cannot explore
   
2. independence, autonomy - we need to find it in order 2 find freedom ... if we do not, we have shame
3. initiative - we need to learn to take it ... and if we do not, we have guilt
4. industry - if we do it, we avoid a feeling of inferiority
5. identity - if we do not land on one, we become confused; everyone else seems to have one
6. affiliation and love - adult life:  we seek those we love and work we love
7. generativity - if we have passed thru all  earlier stages, we get to the point where we wish to give back
8. integrity - we feel it if we have been able to do all the above; otherwise, despair.