Pertinent to the documentary we watched

Sarongs for Miss World

http://www.breitbart.com/Big-Hollywood/2013/06/06/PC-Beauty-Miss-World-Ditches-Bikinis-for-Less-Revealing-Sarongs

The Honor Belt: Corporatization of Family

1.     Descent is traced through males

2.     Clear preference for birth of sons over daughters

3.      Growing up, boys enjoy considerably greater freedom and are groomed to assume a dominant role in the family.  As girls grow up, their worlds contract; they gradually find themselves more and more segregated from boys

4.      Girls receive less schooling. 

5.     Girls typically required to wear loose clothing, conceal their hair--may be required to wear a veil

6.     Woman’s sexuality is not her own but belongs to her family.  If suspected of having sex before marriage, may be forced to undergo a virginity examination

7.     Families marry off daughters at a young age, especially in under developed rural areas.  E.g., Turkey, 16% of women in the 1990s married before 15, the legal age for marriage

8.     On marrying, woman usually goes to her husband’s home, subject to the authority of her husband and her mother-in-law

9.      Outside the home,  public world of work, politics, law, & religion: male dominated

10.   Families are clan-like, exhibiting temporal continuity stretching backwards and forwards in time.  The family has a history and, its members hope, a future.  A married couple does not establish its own separate family but, rather, continues and extends the family

11.    Multi-generational and extended:  a man and his brothers and their sons and wives and children and perhaps grandchildren may live under one roof – or close

12.    Share common property:  land and animals owned by the family rather than by individual members

13.   Centralize decision making:  typically in the hands of older members, esp men

14.   Often practice endogamous marriage:  patrilateral cousin marriage (a son marrying his father’s brother’s daughter) is preferred, sometimes modal, through M.E.  Cousin marriage keeps property within the family as wealth is transferred on marriage goes to kin rather than non-kin.

15.   Parents often choose the marriage partners of their offspring.

16.   Honor killing (killing a woman if she engages in sex, particularly outside the religion) is the family’s social control but, according to the West, is itself criminal.

17.   The family acts as a unit towards the world.

SOURCES (more soon) Faqir, 2001:  72 and Vieille, 1978

  

When families are more individualistic, less corporate, honor offenses are handled less severely

3 big Hollywood celebs on gender

Polansky on the attempt to make the sexes the same 
Geena Davis on Sexism in Hollywood
Glenn Close on her role in "Fatal Attraction"

Sexism links - general

! VIRGINITY TESTS prior to marriage
Sexism is the military's greatest sin
Sin to tell a woman she'd make a great mom
The classic piece:  "The Personal is Political"
Rape in the military
she's Too Pretty to work
Time to stop Hooking Up - you know you want to
Will this app make us stop buying sexist junk?
Visualizing LARGE BREASTS - what it says
Women:  no more menopause ? ? ?

craziness - ? - n the treatment of women

Sharia law:  Better off under Mubarak in Egypt

what our government offers girls 10-16 y.o.:  look at this sex advice

Men - what are men going through & what's true of them?

• men (trying to) think in front of a woman (+ what we saw in documentary)
• men, not reading women's emotions
• men say "I love you" first - really?  what do you think?
• "Chickification" - manliness in the era of feminism
• "manliness" - and low expectations
• Men's tears and women's tears
• Men's brains:  10 facts
• falling behind women:  who wants this?
• in 40% of households, women are the major wage earners
• body size and political positions

"pair bonding" - what happens

desire in a long term relationship
marriage and love
sex over 50
some (more) women wanna just "stay home" now - what's that about?

will YOU become more conservative as you age?  people do

gender bending & abandoning the family as the unit

girls forced to kiss

• transgendered high schools
• dorms:  gender neutral - how does THAT work?
• dorms:  more on genders in dorms
• France:  gay marriage ~ "Non"
• VERY high % of 1st borns to unwed mothers
• LOOK AT these to bend stereotypes of women ...   

         and then again there is THIS of the Israeli women soldiers

• "Hooking up" as an alternative to searching for love:  what happens?
• girl who 'should be' a boy
• adverse fallout of breakdown of traditional sex roles:  meningitis among gays

One Second Every Day

start here - what do we use with which to "make sense"

what do you see
direct experience
memory
stereotypes
social conventions

Hey S&G-ers! Check out this trailer for your fellow CCHer Morgan Toll's thesis film. I art directed it and would love for you all to watch and share with friends. We're going to be posting a campaign on indiegogo in order for us to finish it and would love all the support we can get. Thanks! - Victoria

Cameron Russell: Looks Aren't Everything

https://www.ted.com/talks/cameron_russell_looks_aren_t_everything_believe_me_i_m_a_model.html

this was posted by someone else - but as a draft.  I thought it was a good one so I am posting it.  didn't know if the poster wanted to be anonymous... or what

Money on gender change.

your-tax-dollars-at-work-

Film Lists

Let's use this post to suggest films that fit the categories:  jobs, patriarchal or break-the-mold, family, hot sex, sex as topic, violence, age and sex, LGBTQ, Weddings, Ethnic Differences, Single Parenting.

I saw one this weekend that is great for Ethnic distinctions and gender relations:  Tarantino's "Jackie Brown."  Wow, what a film!

Feminist's son accused of sexual aggression -

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424127887324600704578405280211043510.html

what do we do with our observations?

Learning about behavior patterns that tend to attach to a particular sex or  gender (by nature or by culture) can help to free us. We might have been thinking (and acting) like our friend or partner *is* a certain way, but when we realize that it is characteristic of an entire sex or gender, it has the potential to free us.  We can let go of a notion that our friend or partner "should" be a certain way.   For example, if a woman thinks "her man" does not notice details, it may help for her to realize that many men tend to be busy with goal-based focus, not detail.  Likewise, if a man thinks "his woman" always wants to talk and seems too dependent, it may help for him to realize that this is the way women behave to feel closeness.

Welcome to Sex & Gender Roles Workshop - CCH

visit these links for the first week  War on Boys and "Am I Pretty?"

Gender Roles - laugh, stereotype?

Erikson's 8 stages